Let's Just Be

So before I went to sleep last night, my bestie called me and I let him read my blog and tell me what he thought of it. He was pretty impressed but a little worried about my last one so I explained to him the situation and he helped me realize my problem. I'm over analyzing things. Now one thing about me is that I don't have a problem stating that I'm wrong about something when it's the case and you know what, I think I was over-reacting just a little. My best friend gave me a lot of insight on how guys operate. When I started having problems with HIM, I found out that it was just personal problems within myself. Now ladies, I know yall probably thinking, "O gosh, here is another woman making excuses for her man" But that' not the case at all.

Ladies, we can not be comfortable with the ways are going and then all of sudden switch the game up on them, guys aren't ready like that. They can not just get up and change things about them, especially when it's the way they've been all their lives. And why make all these changes if we are still doing the sames things just like them, we're not perfect either. If you want things to change between the 2 of you, then let it start with you first. If he agrees and sees that it's for the best then he will follow. Guys need guidance sometimes and we have to be there for that. And once again, I'm not degrading or playing guys, there is nothing wrong with a little guidance sometimes. BUT there is a difference between guidance and dictation. No guy wants a girl that's always trying to tell them what to do and when to do that, they have a mom for that. Guys wants someone their to nurture them physical, spiritual, and emotional. But don't try all of this too soon! We have our whole lives for this and we are just in our primes really. We can't rush everything into these 4 little years we have here. If we do that, then what will we have to look for later on in life.

My best friend also let me in on something else. Ladies, stop trying to find or make your soul-mate come from school. That's a RARE case that you will find him here and if that's the case, then congrats. Your LUCKY! But for the rest, there are wayyyy too many guys out here in the world for you to limit your choices to the boys you see everyday at school. They are all fun and games now, but when we graduate, what about that nice fine looking man with the Range Rover at your office, or what bout that young man that just got his PH-D. There too many of them in this world ladies...you will find the one for you!